Relationship Counseling for Disconnected Couples

You used to be so in love in your relationship. You had passion, connection and trust. But now, it’s the same fight, just a different day.

You don’t feel seen. You walk on eggshells. You want to fight for the relationship but instead you avoid, get passive aggressive or lash out.

Neither of you are listening. Neither of you know how to get back to what you used to be.

Is this it? Is this the breaking point? Or is this just a pattern put on repeat and never ending?

Expert Couples Counselor Rancho Cucamonga, Riverside & Temecula

I’m Alicia Taverner, a licensed marriage & family therapist and expert couples counselor primarily focused on helping couples or individuals in relationships who are on the brink of divorce, struggling with infidelity, or who feel like roommates to finally put a stop to the stupid fights that only leave you ending hurt.  My couples counseling method isn’t just about giving you tools to communicate better, I help you:

• Transform Your Hearts

• Regulate Your Nervous Systems

• Understand the conflict patterns you’ve been in that have been keeping you stuck

• Calibrate Your Relationship to a Deeper Understanding

My Couples Counseling Process

First, we will have a free phone consultation and discuss what’s going on with your relationship and what your goals are for therapy. If we decide to work together, you will start with a 2-day intensive which includes pre-intensive interviews for you and your partner and one with the two of you together. After your 2-day intensive, you will feel BIG shift - you’ll have a deeper understanding of the patterns you get into when there’s a conflict and you’ll feel a shift in your nervous system. After your intensive we will continue to work together for a year. You will attend a 4-hour intensive once a month, or 100-minute sessions twice a month. This format allows for more time to work through the stuck places. No more watching the clock, and worrying about how you’ll manage between sessions. You will start to rebuild trust, have the hard conversations without it ending in rejection and start to reconnect to your partner. You will feel big changes each time we meet and have an opportunity to integrate those changes between sessions.

If your partner won’t come in for therapy, or you’re looking for help making sense of your relationship, you can still transform your life and relationship through this counseling as well. I offer individual counseling to support you in your transformation and in changing your relationships for the better.

During our sessions, we will use Brainspotting, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP), or Internal Family Systems to heal the parts of you that are wrecking havoc on your relationship. You will get a holistic approach to help move around the obstacles that normally come up for you. We track your outcomes so that you don’t repeat the same patterns that have stopped you from making progress towards a deeper connection in the past.

We don’t just talk talk talk. We use brain-based techniques and other approaches like ketamine to accelerate change. You will feel different not just with each other, but in your body, mind and heart.  You will experience shifts that will ripple far beyond your relationship. Many of my clients say that while they feel closer and more healed in their relationship, they notice they are more confident, have better relationships at work, with friends and other family, and they have more peace and happiness.

But what if my partner isn’t interested in couples counseling?

A relationship can heal and transform when even just one of the people in the marriage makes a change. It’s not uncommon for people to come to me for Relationship Therapy for One, and then for them to experience an improvement in their relationship just from working on themselves.

Start Marriage Counseling or Couples Counseling Today

Connection and love are yours for the taking. If you want it, I am here to show you the way. Click below to book a consult for counseling in Rancho Cucamonga, Temecula or Online in California. I also have clients from other states fly in for intensives. The consultation is free, and if we decide that it’s not the right fit, I promise to give you some referrals to someone who might be.